“Happiness is not something readymade. It comes from your own action.” Dalai Lama XIV
Most of the times in our lives, we are searching for happiness but it’s not kept anywhere. We need to stop searching and work on creating it. There can be so many ways by which we can do so and bring ourselves closer to happiness. Here, I have chosen just 5 of them to share with you in little detail.
1. Life is in Phases.
2 years or 5 years back, you were a different person, wanted different things from life. Today is different. After 2 years or 5 years, everything will be different again. So whatever thing or person might be bothering you today, might not even mean anything for you tomorrow. Like your 10th mark sheet, now it hardly matters. Your first crush. You have met much better people than him or her. Thank god, it didn’t work out.
What’s very important for you in this phase, might actually not mean anything for you in next.
2. Whatever is happening in your life doesn’t have the power to affect you. It’s your reaction to it that effects you.
When you fail an exam, you don’t become a failure. You just couldn’t clear it because of certain reasons. If someone dumps you, it doesn’t mean that you are not good enough. It just means that you are not what he/she is looking for.
Good times and bad times will keep on coming like seasons but you are distant from it. Your reaction connects you to them.
3. Don’t put conditions to your happiness.
If you don’t get something you wanted but get something else. The other thing can also be equally beautiful but may be in a different way.
If you go to a restaurant and order chocolate shake, instead you are served with mango shake and now you can’t even change it. If you waste your time cribbing about the fact that you wanted chocolate shake and couldn’t get that, you will even spoil the moments in which you could have enjoyed mango shake.
Do make your order but don’t put a condition to it and accept happily whatever you receive. At least give it a chance.
4. No problem is big enough to put your life on hold.
To forget… to smile… to share that greeting… to smell that flower… to meet that friend…
Solving problems is important but it doesn’t mean that you forget to live your life in the process of solving them. May be you’ll be better able to solve your problems with a calmer mind, which can even help you in identifying different options to resolve the issue.
5. Never hesitate to ask for help or to share your problems.
No single person will be able to solve all of your problems or able to help you out always. But there must be someone who will be able to help you out or at least make things appear clearer to you.
We keep thinking that I am going through so much but the moment we share it with someone, then he or she provides us with different perspective to look at the same problem which we had been missing so far.
Hope you’ll find these points useful in your life. Please do share your views and comments. I’ll be eagerly waiting.
Wish you lots of happiness 🙂 🙂 🙂